Your child’s first big school event is coming up. Your child has been chosen to sing or dance on stage. Yet, the child is usually shy. Instead of being happy about this opportunity, they have withdrawn. Forgetting about agreeing to go on stage, they now refuse to go to school at all. What should you do in this situation? How can you build a mindset in your child that is ready to embrace new experiences?
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1. Not all children are the same. Many join in learning new things spontaneously. But in that crowd, there are also some timid, quiet children. If your child is like that, you must understand that fear is inherent in their nature. Many parents worry that their child might fall behind others. Instead of understanding them, they force them to participate in new activities. This can make the child even more introverted. So, first, you need to understand why the child is disinterested in the task.
2. You must explain to the child why it is necessary to face any fear. Tell them that in life, there will be many situations where you will not want to stand up to them at all. You will feel that it would be best to avoid them somehow. The upcoming event might also be possible to avoid in some way. Honestly, if you avoid facing fear, you get immediate peace. But this creates a long-term avoidance mentality. It affects all stages of life. Moreover, do not forget that if you sidestep a fear today, its size will grow even larger in the future.
3. Sit with your child and help them understand what to do to make the performance smooth. Instead of scolding, explain where the mistakes are. Help them practice during free time at home. Encourage them like a friend in this task. Make sure that pleasing you is not their only goal.
4. On the day of the event, definitely be present by your child’s side. It is possible that despite many efforts, their performance did not go as desired. In that case, try not to show irritation or disappointment as much as possible. Instead, let your child know that you understand they have given their hundred percent to this task. Let them know you are by their side today and in the future for any task. This will boost the child’s morale. It will also increase their trust in you.
